Showing posts with label Randomness. Show all posts
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December 22, 2013

Whose Wedding Next?!

Ever had someone zealously insist you attend their wedding as if you owed them some debt from a previous birth? Or assert that you confirm your attendance right away as if their wedding ceremony would not be solemnised without your presence? Polite invitations are sweet, the zealous assertions…not so much. A couple of the latter have come my way this month. The trend of peers getting married began in 2012 for me, and people have been getting married left, right and centre since then! I suppose it will tide over by 2020 and invitations would be flying thick and fast throughout this period, depending on who does not read this post.

Confession: I have no interest in weddings or even the institution of marriage. The former is an exercise in event management and the latter brings nothing to the table in a relationship. This post is for whipping the wedding wave.

Indian wedding ceremonies involve a bunch of religious rituals. Hindu weddings tend to have a larger number of such rituals as compared to, say, Sikh or Muslim ones. Whatever the wedding formalities may be, they require only the bride, groom and a priest endorsing god’s representation in that ceremony. For example, the sacred fire plays that representative in the Hindu ones. Unlike court proceedings, which require human witnesses to register a marriage, the religious ceremonies have no need for any other physical witnesses. Since “God” is your witness, the mortals can go take a hike, if they want.

Often, that is not what they ‘want’. Our collectivistic cultural tendencies manifest themselves in wedding ceremonies which offer the perfect pretext to gather and make merry. Popular culture has influenced traditional ceremonies to spread over ‘festivities’ lasting at least 2-3 days. The actual ‘wedding ceremony’ could be a matter of few minutes or some hours, but the melee around it provides a great outing to our latent voyeur. ‘Sangeet’ and ‘Cocktail’ parties are ideal to satiate our mutual obsession with watching women dance. The bride and groom have a perpetual grin plastered on, irrespective of their backs hurting due to long hours of standing, bending to greet the elders or high-heeled footwear.

Originally meant to be a ‘celebration of union’, wedding ceremonies have ballooned into massive event management exercises. An act of unison between two private individuals is turned into a colossal shindig swarming with participants who have no imminent impact on this “union”. While being genuinely happy for the soon-to-be-marrieds, I find such ‘celebrations’ to be utterly dispensable and see no point in attending them. I despise the idea of watching the ritual of kanyadaan”, essentially an act akin to transfer of property, a.k.a the bride. It is quite inconvenient trudging over to faraway destinations and I don’t eat at weddings. Not to mention the personal costs (time, money, et al) involved in attending an impersonal event. I’d certainly drop everything and go for a wedding if my services (of any kind) were solicited by those at the heart of “the event”. But it’s really unfair expecting me to be a passive bystander in your jamboree when I have other options to utilise my costs. I’d gladly spend hours with the couple, bonding over fresh meals, laden with dollops of laughter as we discuss the good (and even the not-so-good) things in life.


I prefer nurturing a personal relationship, instead of marking my ‘attendance’ at a “wedding ceremony” so that the supremo can gloat about their event management skills. *Scurrying off to RSVP!* 

May 12, 2012

Immigrant Citizenship


Can Immigrants be Citizens?
What citizenship rights can they rightfully claim?

The category of ‘citizen’ serves as a marker of identity, along with other categories such as race, ethnicity and gender. Citizens are conferred with rights and privileges which non-citizens mostly don’t have the benefit of availing. The idea of ‘citizenship’ itself has been a widely contested one as it delineates the inclusion of certain members at the expense of excluding others. In his classic essay "Citizenship and Social Class" (1998), T. H. Marshall traced the expansion of citizenship in England over three centuries. Marshall's three categories of citizenship -civil, political and social- are still relevant and highlight the areas of debate around formulation of citizenship norms in current context and its usage to grant a legal recognition to natives differentiating them from immigrants.

Political events in the past half a century have made it even more contentious about who qualifies to be a citizen and who doesn’t. At stake here now are the political rights of recognition and assertion of identity, while simultaneously availing of the benefits of social and civil aspects of citizenship. In the scenario of mass movement of labour across geographical borders, the category of ‘citizen’ itself seems to have become quite superfluous. The scholarly thought on this may want us to believe otherwise, though. Hence, this essay reviews selected works in trying to present both sides of the debate. It begins with a brief discussion on shifting notions of who qualifies to be a ‘citizen’, proceeding to a review of some arguments on whether immigrants can be citizens. This is followed by an evaluation of some arguments on the possibility of certain rights which immigrants may claim as residents of a state.




Of ‘citizen’ and ‘citizenship

In lay understanding, citizens are those members of a nation-state who have legal and political rights. These rights are granted on the basis of numerous qualifying criteria and instantly differentiate them from others who may be residing in the same territory but don’t have these rights. On deliberation, it appears that every geographical entity has its own criteria for granting recognition to residents and these are, without exception, fraught with contesting claims. As Aristotle stated,
The state is a compound made of citizens; and this compels us to consider who should properly be called a citizen and what a citizen really is. The nature of citizenship, like that of the state, is a question which is often disputed: there is no general agreement on a single definition: the man who is a citizen in a democracy is often not one in an oligarchy (1941:1247).

Hence, the category of ‘citizen’ is not easily envisaged, understood and agreed upon. ‘Many key terms in the interpretative social sciences and history - "race," "nation," "ethnicity," "citizenship," "democracy," "class," "community," and "tradition," for example - are at once categories of social and political practice and categories of social and political analysis’ (Brubaker and Cooper 2000:4). According to them, ‘"Identity” is both a category of practice and a category of analysis. Understood as a specifically collective phenomenon, "identity" denotes a fundamental and consequential sameness among members of a group or category’ (ibid.). This is true for the category of ‘citizen’ too. Those marked as citizens of a common territory automatically share the same set of rights and obligations, irrespective of their differences in other categories of distinctions. ‘Citizenship is not a "natural" idea but an invented concept that shifts with economic, political, and social changes. Citizenship, at least theoretically, confers membership, identity, values, and rights of participation and assumes a body of common political knowledge’ (Abowitz and Harnish 2006:653-4). According to Brubaker, ‘modern national citizenship was an invention of the French Revolution’ (1992:35).

In a democracy, citizenship…
(a) gives membership status to individuals within a political unit; (b) confers
an identity on individuals; (c) constitutes a set of values, usually interpreted as a commitment to the common good of a particular political unit; (d) involves practicing a degree of participation in the process of political life; and (e) implies gaining and using knowledge and understanding of laws, documents, structures, and processes of governance (Enslin, 2000).

Can immigrants be citizens?

Wallerstein  argues that,
the concept of citizen was intended to be inclusive-to insist that all persons in a state, and not just some persons (a monarch, aristocrats) had the right to be included in the process of collective decision-making in the political arena and the right to receive the social benefits the state might distribute. But the other face of the inclusiveness of citizenship was exclusion. Those who were not citizens of the state had become by definition aliens- citizens, perhaps, of some other state, but not of this state (2003:651, emphasis added).

In line with the essentially exclusionary nature of citizenship, Walzer (1983) argues that if national borders are not maintained as markers of a national community, internal distinctions and demarcations will become more pronounced. The admission and exclusion of immigrants, he suggests, is at the very core of ‘communal independence’. The sense of a common life, of a historically stable, on-going association, and of a community with a special and mutual commitment could not be maintained without such markers. If these national markers weakened, internal boundaries would come to the fore to the point of insular ‘fortresses’ emerging (Walzer 1983:62-63). According to Klusmeyer, ‘every community determines its own identity- morally, culturally, and politically- by whom it includes and by whom it excludes. Throughout their history, Germans have had to face an especially difficult and painful problem in drawing the boundaries of their national community’ (1993:83). For Brubaker (1992), the state is an association of citizens, and not just a territorially defined power and authority structure. Yet, he argues that citizenship serves ‘a powerful instrument of social closure’, in terms of the larger international community (1992:75). In his opinion, the boundary of citizenship allows rich states to draw a line that separates its citizens from potential immigrants from poor countries. It also allows states to create internal boundaries that separate citizens from foreign residents, by associating certain rights and privileges with national citizenship. Liberal democracies are, following from this argument, ‘internally inclusive’ while remaining ‘externally exclusive’ (ibid. 21).

Bosniak summarises this paradox in the following lines -
Citizenship, as we have seen, trades in both universalism and particularism. From an internal perspective, the citizenship ideal is warm and inclusive, extending, in theory, to embrace “everyone.” But this embrace is, in fact, circumscribed; the ideal of citizenship, from a boundary-conscious perspective, is exclusive, demarcating not merely a class of national community members but also, in the process, a class of community outsiders. And since citizenship’s boundaries are not fully coextensive with territorial borders but extend into the national society’s interior, these two understandings of citizenship—the universal and the exclusive—sometimes run up against each other on the national inside (2006:102).

Klusmeyer (1993) offers an excellent overview of the German problem of integration of aliens and immigrants. The absence of a ‘general immigration policy’ (1993:85) indicates that the state does not promote active influx of citizens from other countries intending to settle there permanently. Nevertheless, the presence of refugees and expellees from World War II, guest workers contributing to West Germany’s phenomenal industrial growth and success, resident aliens, second/ third- generation immigrants and asylum seekers have all contributed to the ‘problem of integrating minorities (that) stands out as one of the most pressing social and political challenges’ (1993:106) in the Federal Republic of Germany.

In the light of the above discussion, I will now try and examine whether immigrants can be citizens by shifting the attention to Walzer’s (1983) arguments.  In ‘Spheres of Justice’, Walzer outlines his argument for restricted migration by comparing the nation-state scenario with that of a community’s functioning and control of its own membership. He claims that the community alone decides on admission to citizenship, emigration, exiling, and stripping citizenship away. Secondly, the community ought to adopt a policy of inclusiveness: all of its present inhabitants-immigrants, refugees, guest workers, and residents-should be offered full membership because it is tyranny to rule over strangers. But there are no standards for admission initially other than the ones the community sets for itself (1983:36-39). While in the former claim Walzer is vesting all rights on the members of a community, in the latter claim he is arguing for inclusiveness. In developing his argument further, Walzer values membership in a community and not simply citizenship in a state. In reality, political states are geographical entities comprising of communities which may be strife with differences within and without them. Yet, they are bound together by other shared cultural beliefs and practices.  Walzer’s commitment to the concept of community shows itself in his justification for autonomous control of membership but he identifies only the barest minimum conditions for political unity, and not that of community. Hence his argument may seem quite superfluous in terms of belonging to a community where entry is restricted by social agreement.

According to Walzer, while labour movements may be a result of market forces and availability of opportunities, eventually, who gets inducted as a formal citizen is decided on the basis of ‘kinship principle’ (ibid. 41) which is given priority in the US. As he writes, ‘labour mobility has a social price’ (ibid. 41). Walzer’s arguments imply that the state (akin to a community) has a choice to decide who’s inducted and who’s not, which leads us to be believe that he’s making a subtle case for immigration with a restrictive border. This is countered by Carens who in ‘Aliens and Citizens: The Case for Open Borders’ (1987) goes all out to make a case for open borders and free movement. He uses the arguments of other contemporary schools of political thought to supplement his argument for open borders. Using Nozick’s (1974) argument for property rights, Carens states that at one level it may seem that citizens may not immigrate because of collective property rights held in their native land. Carens points out that Nozickian theories emphasize individual, not collective, rights that may be enforced by the state. ‘[T]he control that the state can legitimately exercise over [its] land is limited to the enforcement of the rights of individual owners. Prohibiting people from entering a territory because they did not happen to be born there or otherwise gain the credentials of citizenship is no part of any states legitimate mandate’ (Carens 1987:254). So Nozick’s approach, Carens concludes, cannot support restrictions on migration.

From Rawls’ theory, Carens draws that one should ‘take a global, not a national, view of the original position’ (Carens 1987:256). Given this, Carens argues that people in the original position would select a principle of international justice that protected the right to free movement, because migration might prove essential to their life plans. Thus, Carens concluded that a Rawlsian perspective also suggests that free movement is a fundamental liberty. Carens proceeds to draw his arguments from utilitarianism, which despite its many internal disagreements against immigration, also points toward considerably more open borders. This is because, Carens argues, regardless of whether one considers only economic factors or also other ones, such as cultural interests or even mere prejudices - the utility of aliens must be weighed equally with that of citizens, which would undoubtedly tip the scales in the direction of free movement.
Under current conditions, when so many millions of poor and oppressed people feel they have so much to gain from migration to the advanced industrial states, it seems hard to believe that a utilitarian calculus which took the interests of aliens seriously would justify significantly greater limits on immigration than the ones entailed by the public order restriction implied by the Rawlsian approach (Carens 1987:264).

While these three theories may originally appear to not be in favour of unregulated migration, Carens skilfully extracts from them nuances and then builds upon them to support his own grand proposition for more openness of borders. Beyond this, Carens dismisses Walzer’s argument for restricted movement stating - ‘any approach like Walzer's that seeks its ground in the tradition and culture of our community must confront, as a methodological paradox, the fact that liberalism is a central part of our culture’ (1987:268-9). Carens does admit that open borders would indeed prevent certain ways of life from continuing, but he qualifies this by adding that ‘constraining the kinds of choices that people and communities may make is what principles of justice are for’ (ibid.:271). To conclude, Carens arguments for open borders seems, for the lack of a better word, quite restrictive. His claims are all grounded in examples from the US and when extrapolated to other parts of the world, certainly may not be feasible or agreeable to many states. A case for ‘open borders’ should be based on wider grounds and not on a limited region. Also, Carens’ assumption that people are, without exception, driven by a desire to improve their living conditions and be better off economically, at the expense of losing their cultural and community networks seems too far-fetched and exclusively materialistic. The application of such an argument may be universally impossible and hence lends an element of doubt to Carens’ undoubtedly noble intentions. Nevertheless, from Carens, we may deduce that membership in a functioning economy capable of delivering high levels of employment, income, and consumer choice, whether organized on the basis of whole or partial "national sovereignty," is arguably normally much more important to people in contemporary Western societies (and indeed to people's conception of the nature of their citizenship) than is their nationality.
  
It is impossible to offer a neat response to our original question of whether immigrants can be citizens. Kymlicka and Norman point out that when thinking about citizenship today, ‘the complex webs of rights and responsibilities implicating citizens in various ethical, political and social decisions are important to keep in mind’ (2000:15). They argue that,
while citizens everywhere may be contained legally within state boundaries that enact rights and obligations, their own states are not subject to such containment. All states, through multilateral arrangements and international accords, implicate (or fail to implicate) their citizens involuntarily in a web of rights and responsibilities concerning the environment (wildlife, pollution), trade (copyright, protection), security, refugees, crime, minorities, war, children and many other issues (ibid.).
What complicates the issue further is that ‘many citizens and non-citizens (illegal aliens, immigrants, migrants) of states have become increasingly mobile, carrying these webs of rights and obligations with them and further entangling them with other webs of rights and obligations’ (ibid). Hence, it becomes imperative to explore what rights such aliens and immigrants can claim in the scenario of increased mobility across borders, either sanctioned or illegal.

Immigrants and citizenship rights

It may seem antithetical to use ‘immigrants’ and ‘citizenship rights’ in the same phrase. From the discussion above, it is evident that any move to upgrade the status of ‘immigrants’ to that of ‘citizens’ and granting them rights enjoyed by other citizens is deeply contested on various moral, political, cultural and economic grounds. In this section, I explore some of the rights that immigrants wish to attain but are usually denied.
 ‘Since the founding of the United States as a sovereign nation, the diversity of the population has challenged the values of inclusiveness and equality. Historically, these tensions manifested themselves in debates over taxation and representation, apportionment, and suffrage. In modern times, these values have been disputed in controversies over the differential undercount of racial minorities and adjustments of the censuses; immigrants' rights to representation, access to higher education, and the entitlements of citizenship; and many other social issues. Essentially, the controversy is about the rights of membership in a liberal democracy and whether citizenship is a special membership status (Tienda 2002:587, emphasis added).

Bosniak (1998) discusses how the figure of the alien is constantly being devalued in the US policy reforms which are keeping up with the trends of ‘new public preoccupation with citizenship status in this country’ (1998:29). She outlines some of the suggested policy reforms which will make it difficult for newer members to acquire citizens, while simultaneously taking away some of the additional social benefits that undocumented citizens previously enjoyed (ibid.). She goes on to critique citizenship theory on the ground that it has ‘been strikingly silent on issues involving citizenship status and treatment of alien’ (ibid.:31).

Howard (2006) discusses in detail why national citizenship is still important despite ‘the broader umbrella of ‘European citizenship’ since it ‘is itself strictly derivative of national citizenship’ (2006:445). Most of these claims by non-citizens of EU (aliens or immigrants) essentially relate to political rights (eligibility to context elections and vote) and also their exclusion from receiving social benefits (ibid.). ‘Whether in terms of politics and elections, welfare state benefits, public-sector employment, social integration, or demographics and pension systems, national citizenship remains an essential and enduring feature of modern life-even in the "supra-national" European Union’ (ibid.:446). It is these rights that immigrants aim to claim in return of the services offered to their host nation, not to mention especially by second and third generation immigrants,

The rights that immigrants can claim depend on multiple factors. Their ethnic and cultural background, family size and needs, current economic status and the aspired standard of living, desire to forge bonds with the community via participation in political processes are among some of the variables that may lead to immigrants pressing for attainment of rights closer to those of citizens, if not entirely equal.

Conclusion

Scholars like Kymlicka and Norman (2000) have argued for incorporating the changes brought about by transnational migration and multiculturalism. Though, the detractors are not far away. Huntington (2004) ominously warns of the ‘Hispanic Challenge’ to the US where continuing influx of Mexican migrants will lead to the ‘Americans acquiesce(ing) to their eventual transformation into two peoples with two cultures (Anglo and Hispanic) and two languages (English and Spanish)’ (2004:32). His presentation of this situation conjures up images of an Inquisition-like scenario in the US.

Providing  a more rational opinion, on the basis of analysing statistical data from Mexico, Spain , US and Armenia, Rhodes and Harutyunyan ‘suggest that the political logic of emigrant citizenship in recent decades is similar to that affecting the extension of citizenship to groups that were excluded in the past (such as such as those without property, racial minorities, and women). Demand for ever-increasing inclusiveness seems to be almost an inherent feature of competitive regimes’ (2010:488).

To conclude,
The health and stability of a modern democracy depends, not only on the justice of its institutions, but also on the qualities and attitudes of its citizens: e.g. their sense of identity, and how they view potentially competing forms of national, regional, ethnic, or religious identities; their ability to tolerate and work together with others who are different from themselves; their desire to participate in the political process in order to promote the public good and hold political authorities accountable; their willingness to show self-restraint and exercise personal responsibility in their economic demands, and in personal choices that affect their health and the environment; and their sense of justice and commitment to a fair distribution of resources (Kymlicka and Norman 2000:5-6).

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July 23, 2010

SBT

The Salaam Baalak Trust is an NGO working for the rehabilitation of orphans and juveniles. The blogger visited their centre in Paharganj area of New Delhi. This one is housed in a rented space on the 3rd floor of a DDA building. This building also has other offices of similar organizations. This particular centre has 40 boys in the age group of 6-14 years. They come from variedly underprivileged backgrounds and their upbringing is undertaken by the SBT.


 The    children live in-house in a dorm. There is a computer centre equipped with 14 PCs and classes are regularly held for the children. There are various educational posters adorning the walls. There is an entire show-case dedicated to the various achievements of these kids. There is also a shot of the child who had a role in the ROAD MOVIE, along with its lead actor Abhay Deol and the director Satish Kaushik. One of their star children [now an adult] Vicky Roy has achieved accolades for his photography. He even had a show in New York. That poster is up too, to serve as an inspiration to the children.

The main drive behind the initiative is to make available to these children most of the available faculties for an all-round development. Their background should not be a hindrance for a brighter and better future! When this blogger went there, with a group of ladies, the children performed various dance pieces. 2 of them even sung songs for us! One of the dance items was a very well-choreographed and fairly rehearsed piece on the song ‘BUM BUM BOLE’ from the hit flick Taare Zameen Par.

Many years ago, this blogger was a part of a short X’mas skit done for a group of children from SBT. They must be all grown ups now, but it felt nice to renew the connection with SBT. Hopefully, there will be better associations in the future.

September 20, 2009

Marked!

SCAR

You can see it.
You can feel it.
Does it hurt?

A look at the gashes,
Brings back some flashes.
Could be positive or negative,
Or just a misgive!

It keeps reminding…
How unsmooth was the ride!
Was it the driver?
Or just the roadside?!

Every mark has a story…
May or may not be gory.
Is that how you wanted?
Or it just got planted?!

"Jarred, charred and scarred."
I feel extremely marred.
Forgiven or not…
There’s STILL a spot.
What may I say?
Hope the scars…
Just fade away.
20th September 2009

July 10, 2009

Missing SK

MISSING SHAHID!!!!


long before a film is released...it's music n trailers hit the airwaves...trying to entice the viewers and seduce any unsuspecting individual into watching the film after it's released!!!

such is also the intention of the soon to-be released LOVE AAJ KAL directed by the very spunky Imtiaz Ali. relying on his previous cinematic ventures AND the buzz around this movie, it's definitely gonna be worth one watch AT LEAST!!!

but what makes this blogger squirm slightly...is the track "TWIST". and one person who'd surely be twisting n turning in his grave with disgust is Mr. Hemant Kumar...the music director of 'mann dole mera tann dole'...which has that VERY famous 'nagin' tune. nope...it's not his own compostion that he's regretting NOW. it's the blatant plagiarisation of tht tune and it's incorporation in "TWIST".

oh! n this blogger has a few more grudges against the song!!! Pritam...the music director of LOVE AAJ KAL...is known for his foot-tapping compositions. what he's also known for, on the sly, is copying tunes!!! THAT is one fact which is not really publicised! a simple example wud be the track "yeh ishq hai" from JAB WE MET. it's been copied from a number in some foreign language. go figure!!!

that Imtiaz and Pritam wanted to recreate the "Mauja" magic is quite ostensible from the visuals of this track. WHO can forget the awesome video of Shahid doing some mean moves in "Mauja hi Mauja" from Jab We Met?!!! that song was an INSTANT hit, a chart topper, and STILL rocks on the club scene. it was SO well-loved that posters of the movie..printed in Punjab had Pritam's surname as 'Singh'. the music director was stumped, 'coz he's actually "Chakraborty"! he was then told that the people thought the music director OUGHT to be a punju since he made something so authentically punjabi as 'mauja hi mauja'. Shahid being a trained dancer [from Shiamak's] helped the choreographers Bosco-Caesar in giving him very appealing steps.

where TWIST falters, is the conscious attempt made by Pritam to do something EXACTLY like Mauja. it's very difficult to recreate the same magic. and WHY does one have to? doing a song from that genre is NOT the only way of creating a foot-tapping number and knowing it'll be a hit. and what makes it worse...is the fact that Saif Ali Khan can obviously not dance! n he himself admitted to having two left feet!!! PLUS...his face looks Botox-ed AND his movements don't have fluidity which makes the attempt look clumsy!!!

these people should have opted for someone who's an actual dancer and then had an item song in the flick. anyway, TWIST is part of the end credits...so WHO needed Saif to show off his not-so-smooth movements?!

also, the song's composition itself doesn't have much to make it sound distinguishable. TOO much of beats, make it sound somewhat fuzzy. it's a very cluttered soundtrack. probably the only recongnisable bit about the song is the 'nagin' tune!!!

ideally, i wouldn't wanna listen to it...or dance on it, for tht matter!!! BUT...the latter's probably not gonna happen...'coz seems like the song has caught up n wud be played..at least for sometime...on the DJ circuit.



Imtiaz n Pritam..i can only wish u guys ALL THE BEST for ur next venture together. we hope u come up with some better musical creations!!!

May 10, 2009

Mum's the wor(l)d!

HEY SEXY MOMMA!!!



ALL mothers ARE “working” mothers!!!

Today…as we celebrate MOTHER’S DAY, the blogger stand vindicated of its belief articulated a few years back. Times are truly changing. As we ‘progress’… the path to enjoy the choice exercised by you is increasingly being paved with support and understanding. Yours truly had once said, when MY generation decides to enter motherhood, it’s going to be much easier for us to do it OUR way.

Presented here is an article from TIMES LIFE, a supplement of the SUNDAY TIMES OF INDIA which explores the gradual paradigm shift in the traditional notions of ‘motherhood’. As we move with the times, it REALLY symbolizes the essence of ‘progress’…and gives us a very clear picture of times to come.

Mom alone

Unwed, single, scared and yet brave — the new-age Mother's Day embraces motherhood of all kinds. Sreemoyee Piu Kundu explores

TIMES NEWS NETWORK

WOMEN nurture a Cindrella Syndrome — a loving husband, kids and a picture perfect home. But as a single mom, I’ve learnt that you don’t always need a Prince Charming to walk into the sunset!” That’s 32-year-old Parul Toria, single parent to a teenaged son, talking. Parul is just one of the many single moms who are redefining the very definition of parenthood in a contemporary urban scenario.

PROVIDER & PROTECTOR 

The twilight zone of single moms is a fortified universe guarded by maternal pride, and the need to be a material and emotional provider. “Single parenting is daunting, involving multitasking at all levels,” adds actress Pooja Bedi, single mom to 11-year-old Aalia and nine-year-old Omar. Thankfully, social acceptance is forthcoming. Kalyani Chawla, VP, Christian Dior, India, and a single mother feels, “There’s great respect for women who’re working to support themselves and bring up children as single moms. Once you can afford to take care of yourself and your children emotionally, on your own, more than financially, you find ground for great pride and self-worth. Today, women are financially independent. You don’t need a man anymore to fulfil a false sense of security.”

THE SIEGE WITHIN 

The rise in urban divorce rates coupled with redefined gender rules has transformed modern-day motherhood from a biological obligation to a 24-hour job. “In the past, a single mom raised her kid in the cocooned shelter of her parents’ home. Now, with nuclear homes and working women — it’s a challenge — spending quality time with the child and also being a pro at work. The struggle is more internal now,” holds Parul.
Single moms grapple with the void in their own lives too. Divya Khanna, a single mom to her 11-year-old daughter Megha adds, “Immediately after divorce, moms want to vent their frustration and the child is all she has. But, one needs to cultivate a positive support system and not badmouth the father in front of the child as it instills negative emotions.”
Teething problems apart, single moms are up for the challenge. Lecturer Sunaina Lal, who discovered she was pregnant two months after being dumped by her fiancé, recalls, “I was scared. At 30, being an unwed, single mom wasn’t on life’s agenda. When I decided to keep my child, a lot of people pitied me saying, ‘God will take care of your child.’ Their condescending attitude made me feel my child was being singled out. Wanting a baby puts a woman in control of her destiny and it’s a decision to be lauded!”

WORKING WARRIORS 

In the humdrum of daily life, only the fittest survive. Meena Sharma, a teacher and a single mom to an eight-year-old son says, “I separated when Akash was only nine months old. I jumped jobs — lured by better pay and flexi-timings. Even today, many employers say my resume is choppy — but they don’t realise single moms aren’t like regular employees. We have to pay bills, attend PTA meetings and rush home if our child has fever.”
TV actress Achint Kaur, who separated when her son was three adds, “I customised my work schedule to accommodate my son’s every need. I rarely accepted outdoor schedules and worked only for 15-18 days a month. During and before his board exams, I informed my producers that I wasn’t available. Being professionally productive ensures people understand.” Yet one can’t deny the inherent pull at a mom’s heartstrings. Kalyani adds, “My daughter’s principal said, ‘Don’t feel guilty about being a working mother, every teacher teaching your daughter is one.’”

HOME TRUTHS 

Most single moms grapple with disciplinary issues walking the fine line between indulgence and maternal love. “Usually parents balance each other out — while one’s strict, the other pampers. I’m the softer one and thus handling Megha’s rebellious bouts is tough,” admits Divya, adding, “Her dad always meets her outside, taking her to malls and coffee shops and spoiling her with shopping sprees. Their visits are more like dates. He doesn’t realise the impact it has.”
Is it wise then to keep the father out? Meena says, “Till my son was four, he never knew what a dad was. But, one day, after watching a man leave for work on a scooter, he asked, ‘Is that dad?’ It was time to mend
fences. I called my ex after years. Today, I know there’s someone there, apart from me, on whom my son can depend on.”
Sunaina adds, “My 10-yearold daughter once asked, ‘Do you miss dad?’ Initially, I said, ‘No, ma loves you, dad’s far away.’ But I couldn’t sleep for nights. I hadn’t disclosed my pregnancy to my ex. But, I’d wondered if knowing he was going to become a father may have changed his mind. I had to face my own demons. I traced him, mailing him pictures of Apsara. For months, there was nothing. And then one evening, I got a call from Dipin — a much married father of two daughters settled in Delhi. He even visited us, offered monetary help, but I refused knowing he wouldn’t be able to come clean to his family and that seemed hypocritical. I was scared of Apsara’s response — but her strength amazed me. After he left, she hugged me saying, ‘Ma, are you okay?’ It was a moment of retribution.”

PLAYING DAD

Filling in a father’s shoes is no mean task. But Chawla says, “Create dedicated moments with your l’il one.” Psychologist Seema Hingorrany adds, “Single moms try to compensate lack of quality time through materialistic spoils. But, being there emotionally is the key.”
Meena says of her bonding ritual, “Every four months we go for a small holiday. Sundays too are reserved just for us — we cook, play board games and dance.”

SECOND TIME LUCKY

A lot of single moms shy away from finding love for themselves. “The fear of being exploited again and the impact it can have on kids keeps love out,” says Seema. Meena adds, “Lots of men think it’s cool to date a single mom. But what most guys don’t realise is that a single mom can’t just go out on casual dates at the drop of a hat. I have to look out for my son first.”
Pooja, who was seeing choreographer Haneef Hilal feels, “Expose your kids to the people in your life. Even today, there’s no bitterness between Haneef, me and my kids, post our split. Kids need to know that love and respect exist between their mom and the men in her life, whether or not the relationship sustains.”

MOM’S THE WORD 

Being the perfect single mom is an uphill journey. But, the rewards overshadow the regrets. “Being a single mom isn’t as burdensome like films and serials portray — yes, there are moments when you face social pressure, rebellion from your child and professional dilemmas, but the joys of knowing you are their hero is unparalleled. Last year, on Mother’s Day, Apsara was awarded the best allrounder trophy in school and upon being asked whether she missed a dad, she just pointed at me saying, ‘That’s my dad!’ What’s bigger than that?”

November 7, 2008

People



FOR MY PREETO!!!!!
This blogger is an extremist! Hence, views expressed in this piece are an expression of the immense love and respect I have for MY Preeto! But, before you go on, lemme just clarify…this is NOT an obituary. Period.
So…my emotional anchor…my only security blanket in the NAVAL GIRLS HOSTEL has left the hostel. [and everyone who was informed by this blogger of her departure, disbelievingly asked, “FOREVER?!] Well, thankfully, she’s left only the hostel-a temporary place of stay- and not the permanent place of a special person that she occupies in our [and especially THIS blogger’s] hearts!!!
I regret not being able to give her a ‘send off’ from the venue that’d made us meet. I don’t remember our first conversation [definitely not a long get-to-know-each-other types]…but we simply clicked! The 2nd time her saw her…I remembered her from the last meet…not her name, though! And then… the rest is a history Preeti [ http://travel-o-graphy.blogspot.com ] and I deeply cherish.
After the above…there seems no need to indulge in some more ‘intro.’!!!
I WILL MISS HERTERRIBLY!!!!! she was the only person with whom i could be a kid. More than ‘her’ [‘coz she’s habituated us to her absence!]…I will miss…her green-n-blue bandhini night suit…her casual bear-like stride…her lustrous hair…a voice[slightly husky] that I can recognize anywhere [it made me sprint and come back just to check if it’s her and so I could see her before that exam…’coz we didn’t get to see her on working mornings!]
Can’t say what I’ll miss the most… her exquisite smile [oh! That curling in of the upper lip when she flashes her pearlies…killer!] or her distinctive style of nailing the point on it’s head AND hitting it hard!!!!!
If this seems like a bagful of goodies whose paeans can be sung relentlessly…lemme assure you…it is NOT so!!! A positive and a negative make one neutral. To strike the perfect balance in one’s persona is impossible… it’s only a matter of opinion. This beauty has just the right amount of negative. And whether it’s ACTUALLY a negative or not is, of course, a matter of perception!
Apart from providing unwavering support for a plethora of personal and professional issues, she was [yeah...”WAS”…because it will be quite some time before I will be able to invite her for my bashes] a constant feature in ALL my jam sessions. Preeto…THANK YOU for coming… you were a pleasure to dance with…can’t forget our ‘hips don’t lie’ video!
As closing remarks…I HAVE A DEMAND!!! Well…I wish you ALL THE BEST for your future endeavours! And may you find your “one love” soon!
Oh my Jiju…WHERE ART THOU?!!?!!

P.S. - [i] I take this opportunity to thank Mr. Ankit Chowdhary [for not bringing up copyright issues] and Ms. Preeti Datar for very graciously letting me address her as Preeto!
[ii] I will be ever grateful to Preeto for introducing me to one of the most creative people i've met...Mr. Vikash! [bihari...IITian...humourous...etc.! LETHAL COMBO?!!!!] 

January 16, 2006

Did u KNOW?!?

Adobe - came from name of the river Adobe Creek that ran behind thehouse of founder John Warnock.

Apache - It got its name because its founders got started by applying patches to code written for NCSA's httpd daemon. The result was 'A PAtCHy'server -- thus, the name Apache.

Apple Computers - favorite fruit of founder Steve Jobs. He was three monthslate in filing a name for the business, and he threatened to call his company Apple Computers if the other colleagues didn't suggest a better name by 5 o'clock.

CISCO - its not an acronym but the short for San Francisco.

Google - the name started as a jokey boast about the amount of information the search-engine would be able to search. It was originally named 'Googol',a word for the number represented by 1 followed by 100 zeros. After founders,Stanford grad students Sergey Brin and Larry Page presented their project to an angel investor, they received a cheque made out to 'Google'.

Hotmail - Founder Jack Smith got the idea of accessing e-mail via the webfrom a computer anywhere in the world. When Sabeer Bhatia came up with the business plan for the mail service, he tried all kinds of names ending in'mail' and finally settled for hotmail as it included the letters "html" - theprogramming language used to write web pages. It was initially referred to as HoTMaiL with selective upper casing.

HP - Bill Hewlett and Dave Packard tossed a coin to decide whether thecompany they founded would be called Hewlett-Packard or Packard-Hewlett.

Intel - Bob Noyce and Gordon Moore wanted to name their new company'Moore Noyce' but that was already trademarked by a hotel chain, so theyhad to settle for an acronym of INTegrated ELectronics.

Lotus (Notes) - Mitch Kapor got the name for his company from 'The LotusPosition' or 'Padmasana'. Kapor used to be a teacher of TranscendentalMeditation (by Maharishi Mahesh Yogi).

Microsoft - coined by Bill Gates to represent the company that was devoted toMICROcomputer SOFTware. Originally christened Micro-Soft, the '-' wasremoved later on.

Motorola - Founder Paul Galvin came up with this name when his companystarted manufacturing radios for cars. The popular radio company at the timewas called Victrola.

ORACLE - Larry Ellison and Bob Oats were working on a consulting project for the CIA (Central Intelligence Agency). The code name for the project wascalled Oracle (acronym for: One Real Asshole Called Larry Ellison)

Red Hat - Company founder Marc Ewing was given the Cornell lacrosse team cap (with red and white stripes) while at college by his grandfather. He lost it andhad to search for it desperately. The manual of the beta version of Red Hat Linuxhad an appeal to readers to return his Red Hat if found by anyone !

SAP - "Systems, Applications, Products in Data Processing", formed by 4 ex-IBMemployees who used to work in the 'Systems/Applications/Projects"

SUN - founded by 4 Stanford University buddies, SUN is the acronym for StanfordUniversity Network.

Xerox - The inventor, Chestor Carlson, named his product trying to say 'dry' (asit was dry copying, markedly different from the then prevailing wet copying). The Greek root 'xer' means dry.

Yahoo! - the word was invented by Jonathan Swift and used in his book 'Gulliver'sTravels'. It represents a person who is repulsive in appearance and action and is barely human. Yahoo! founders Jerry Yang and David Filo selected the namebecause they considered themselves yahoos.

November 4, 2005

working fun

MUMMMMEEEE!!!!!
Housekeeping is one S-E-R-I-O-U-S business. It took me full 30 hrs to realise that!!!!!!
Well, my mom’s out of town for 2 weeks, n 30 hrs down the line, I have made truce with the fact that this ‘business’, or so I’d like to call, requires big time management skills, intelligence and god knows what!! Housewives, hats off to u! Thank god, at least I won’t be one of them!!!!!
But then, who’s cribbing?? I’ve been gorging on exotic fruits ever since she left. And, never on earth, she’d let me make Caribbean fruit salad’ for my lunch!!
Mmmm ……I’m loving it, or rather, living it!!!!

August 22, 2005

roots of words

HP n the VOCAB

I seriously think J K Rowling's vocab is not all that strong as we think it is to be. She probably sits with an Oxford ....or wateva Dictionary for constant referance. One possibly can't be using words like the following for their regular communication!!!!!!!

Sample this.........shufti, prat, merpeople, skulking.......n so on. Now, i'm not sitting with an HP to give u the complete inventory of lost words used by the author!!!!!!!!!!!